The Narratives – Mohamed Miah

Growing up, I’ve been given a lot of advice. The tricky part? Actually listening and taking it to heart. It’s funny how advice often sticks more deeply after life has knocked you down a few times. One thing’s for sure: my dad’s words seem to echo the loudest now, especially because so much of what he said has become reality. He passed on wisdom in his own way, hoping I’d avoid making the same mistakes he did.

But here’s the thing—I’m very much like my dad. I still make those mistakes, and just like him, I find myself apologising for them later. One memory that keeps replaying in my mind is how my dad used to call me at the most random times. “Have you eaten? Are you home?” And every time, my response was the same: “Dad, I’m an adult. Why are you still asking me these things?”

He’d chuckle, and say, “One day, you’ll be a father, and then you’ll understand.”

He was right. Today, my kids say the same things I used to say to my dad, and without thinking, I find myself saying exactly what he did all those years ago. It’s a strange but comforting cycle. Those small gestures, those simple questions—it’s just part of how we care for our own.

Dad would also tell me not to hang around certain people, warning me, “They’re not good for you.” Of course, back then, I didn’t listen. I thought I knew better. But as life goes, people naturally took their own paths. It’s funny how sometimes, things fall into place without you realising it.

Then, there’s my mum. Her advice was different but just as important. She would always say, “Turn the other cheek. Don’t get angry.” I used to argue, “But that’s not justice!” I thought reacting in the moment was standing up for myself. But as I’ve grown older, I see her point more clearly now. It’s better to walk away, letting the other person reflect on their actions. It’s easier than dealing with the weight of regret or the need to apologise later on.

In a way, my parents tried to shape me with these principles. They didn’t just want me to avoid mistakes; they wanted me to be better, to live a life based on the teachings of Islam. They talked about the importance of being charitable, kind, generous, and well-mannered. I’m not perfect by any stretch—no one is—but I can try to always be better. If today is difficult, then try again tomorrow.

These are just some of the lessons that have stuck with me, the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received from the two best people in my life: my parents. My dad who is no longer here but will always be a part of me, and my mum who I cherish every day.