The Narratives – Mohamed Miah

They say every day is a school day, and I couldn’t agree more. As we grow older, we realise that life is less about reaching some imagined destination and more about learning, adapting, and finding peace along the way. Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the skills and lessons I’m learning—not in a formal classroom, but in the quieter, everyday moments that shape us.

One of the biggest lessons for me has been learning to take it easier, one step at a time. I’ll admit, it doesn’t come naturally—I’ve always been someone who pushes hard, who cares deeply, and sometimes overdoes it in trying to be everything for everyone. But now, I’m starting to slow down, breathe, and realise that I don’t always have to run at full speed. Life isn’t a sprint; it’s more like a marathon, and pacing yourself matters.

That doesn’t mean I’ve stopped being human, though. When I’m tired or hungry, I can still get a bit grumpy—just ask my family! But I’m working on recognising those moments, stepping back, and not letting small frustrations take over. It’s a process, and I’m not perfect, but progress is progress.

Another skill I’ve been learning is letting go—something I’ve struggled with in the past. Whether it’s situations I can’t control, relationships that don’t serve me anymore, or even the occasional argument with my kids, I’m starting to embrace the idea that not everything needs a resolution. Sometimes, walking away and finding peace in yourself is the healthiest choice. This mindset has helped me let go of anger more quickly and focus on what really matters.

Patience has also been a big one. I’ll admit, I never thought of myself as a particularly patient person. But as life throws its challenges—whether in work, health, or family—I’m finding that patience is less about waiting and more about acceptance. It’s about understanding that good things take time and that rushing won’t change the outcome. I’ve come to value this patience, not just as a virtue, but as a way of finding calm amidst the chaos.

I’ve also learned that kindness starts with yourself. I’ve spent much of my life giving to others—whether it’s time, energy, or advice—and while that’s a part of who I am, I’m realising the importance of setting boundaries. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to take a step back and recharge. In fact, it’s necessary if I want to keep giving my best to the people who truly matter.

Lastly, I’m reminded that learning isn’t always about adding something new; it’s often about unlearning old habits. Whether it’s managing my anger, which I still struggle with sometimes, or being too hard on myself when things don’t go to plan, I’m working on replacing those patterns with healthier ones. It’s a slow, deliberate process, but one that feels deeply rewarding.

So, what lessons have I learned recently? Take it easy. Let go. Be patient. Be kind, especially to yourself. And perhaps most importantly, remember that life is a journey of growth. None of us have it all figured out, but as long as we’re learning and evolving, we’re on the right path.

Here’s to more school days ahead—lessons, mistakes, and all.